Practical Ways to Boost Your Confidence

Face a Fear

Sometimes, taking a risk can seem too scary to try. Maybe you think you could never go bungee jumping from a cliff. It’s beyond my limit for sure! I found better ways to face my fear of heights — like riding in a glass elevator or walking across a tall bridge. Doing these things didn’t make the fear go away, but it retrained my brain to realize I could still do it. Facing your fears and proving you can survive is a great start to building confidence.

Learn Something New

I love learning. When I first started taking time every day to learn about something new and interesting, I had no idea how it would affect my self-confidence. The more I learned, the more confident I felt. The more confident you feel, the easier it is to create an intentional life.

Speak Up

Sometimes, low self-confidence makes it hard to stand up for yourself and what you believe in. I’m not one who enjoys talking in front of groups of people. But learned when I wasn’t assertive, I was causing additional damage to the little self-esteem I had.

Let Go of Toxic Relationships

For some people, their low self-confidence is tied to a draining relationship. Perhaps your spouse or parent is always making cutting remarks adding to your own self-doubt talk. If possible, let go of these toxic relationships.

Try a Power Pose

You may not realize this but your body language sends out signals about your self-confidence. Often those with low confidence will hunch their shoulders, keep their heads down, or avoid eye contact.

Visualize the Best Outcome

When our confidence is low, it’s hard to think of the future in a positive light. What you may not realize is your expectations often become your results. Meaning, if you expect the worst to happen, it usually will. Some of the people I’m closest too have an overly active sense of worry, paranoia, and anxiety about what “might” happen. When I’m trying to visualize a positive outcome it’s hard to hear their excessive concern and not have it transfer to my level of confidence.

Do Something Creative

Creative activities can boost your self-confidence when you’re feeling low. Try to make time for your favorite hobbies. I believe we are each blessed with divinely given talents. When we work to develop those talents we are moving toward the person we were sent here to become. It may be only spending a few minutes to draw a simple sketch or knit a few stitches on the blanket your creating, whatever it is take time to honor your gifts.

Stop Comparing Yourself

You were feeling good about your parenting skills until you saw the way your friend Jenny handled her toddler having a temper tantrum. She remained so calm and never raised her voice. Her love and patience were just oozing from her pores. She knew exactly what to do to be an effective parent.

Set Micro Goals

Not every goal has to be huge. In fact, big goals can be overwhelming and make you less likely to make any actual progress. So, you should always aim to set easier to achieve micro goals.

Surround Yourself with Love

When you lack self-confidence, it’s easy to surround yourself with people who aren’t good for you. Maybe you have a friend who always puts you down or never shows up when you need her.

Give Yourself Permission to Experiment

Part of growing your self-confidence is trying new things. But to do that, you need to remove the pressure of failing or succeeding. Instead, look at every new project as an “experiment”. When it’s over, you can evaluate what you learned from your experiment and what you can do better next time.

Exercise Regularly

Exercise boost endorphins, the feel-good chemicals in your brain. Not only will exercise leave you feeling more positive, but it’s also a self-confidence booster because you feel best about yourself when you’re taking care of your body.

Make It Easy to Follow Through

Some people set a goal but they don’t take steps to put it into motion because of an internal or external roadblock. But those with self-confidence know the best they can do to overcome their resistance is to plan for it.

Celebrate Your Wins

People with low self-confidence often struggle with acknowledging their accomplishments. Instead of simply letting your wins pass you by, record them in your Creating Positive Habits Journal and then find a way to celebrate!


You deserve good things. Not because of what you’ve done or what you’re going to do. You were made to be loved and treated well simply because you are a precious human being. When the doubts come calling, remind yourself that you’re more than the sum of your thoughts.

What has helped boost your confidence when it’s been at a low?

Tandem biker, lemon lover, and wisdom searcher. You can find more of Lori’s writing at

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