It’s Not Good to Feel Alone: How to Beat Loneliness

Loneliness Can Lead To…

Besides being emotionally painful, loneliness can be at the root of many of our common ailments.

How to Beat Loneliness

It’s important to remember it’s okay to be alone, but when your thoughts start playing games with your emotions it’s time to reign in the loneliness. The whole notion that it’s all in your head has some relevance when it comes to loneliness.

  1. Share your Feelings. Talk about what you feel with a friend, family member, or even within an online support group. Opening up and sharing what we feel not only will help you feel better but strength your relationships. Don’t let your brain talk you into thinking it’s not important or you don’t matter. There are people ready to listen and help. Search them out, let them in, and stop the cycle.
  2. Kindness Matters. Instead of waiting for some to help you, step outside of your comfort zone and help some else. Find a volunteer opportunity through your church or community. Read to the elderly, work at a food bank, take a meal into someone who is sick. Look and you’ll be surprised how much there is to do for others.
  3. Try out some new happy habits. There is a direct correlation between these tendencies and happiness. Small changes in behavior help us to intentionally manage our emotions.
  4. Take a class or start a new hobby. There are mental, social and physical benefits to learning something new. Look into a class about an interest you have, join a friend in a hobby she enjoys, or try something you’ve always wanted to try. It will help you feel better. I promise.
  5. Get a Weighted Blanket. This is an idea a couple of my friends have tried and it’s a fabulous idea. One friend has PTSD and the other has a husband who has been deployed overseas. Both use this blanket to help with loneliness. Studies have shown the weight of a blanket simulates being hugged and what could be better when you’re feeling lonely than to have a nice hug. They come in different weights and have various fabrics. Here are a couple of brands to look into.


Often when we feel lonely it is related to a lack of belonging. We don’t quite see where we fit into the world.

How do you beat loneliness, drop a comment in the space below? I’d love to hear from you!

Tandem biker, lemon lover, and wisdom searcher. You can find more of Lori’s writing at

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